So You’re Having Twins: The Encouraging Reminders You Need Right Now

So… You Found Out You’re Having Twins?!

Congratulations! As you start telling friends and family, you might notice some people say “congratulations!” with an exclamation point… and others with more of a question mark. We got that too! Finding out you’re having twins is an incredible surprise, but it definitely comes with a big “oh boy” moment.

When we found out, our firstborn was only 8 months old—so basically, we would have Irish triplets! It’s been a wild ride ever since. Now that all three are toddlers, I want to give a little encouragement to those of you just finding out you’ve got twins on the way.

Here’s what you need to know:

1. First, it’s going to be okay

I can say this with confidence—it really is going to be okay. Right now, it may feel like your whole world has flipped upside down, but in time you’ll see what a gift this is. A double blessing. Take a deep breath, it’s all going to be alright.

2. It’s okay to feel all the emotions

At our first ultrasound around 9 weeks, the tech asked, “Do twins run in your family?” My husband and I answered, “Uhhh… no,” and she turned the screen to show us Baby A and Baby B. We were stunned!

Twin A

Twin B

While the shock never quite dwindled, all the other feelings started to flood in too—excitement, worry, confusion, joy, thankfulness, doubt. And that’s okay. Bringing one baby into the world is life-changing. Multiply that by two, and it’s a lot to process.

My advice? Don’t let fear take over. Feel every high and low as you embrace the journey before you, but always circle back to the truth: these babies are the most incredible blessing.

“Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.” — Joshua 1:9

3. You are not alone—you were made for this

Parenting twins isn’t easy. There are going to be plenty of challenges and learning curves (as is the nature of parenting), but you are strong, capable, and were chosen for this unique journey. I leaned heavily on other moms during the hardest moments, and it made all the difference. Lean on your friends, family, and other moms. That’s one of the reasons I write here—to offer encouragement, tips, and a reminder that you don’t have to do this alone.

While it’s easier said than done, don’t be afraid to ask for help. During our twins’ first year, my mom visited about once a month, and my father-in-law came weekly to take our oldest out to the park or store. Honestly, it sometimes made me feel small—like I should be able to handle it all on my own. But the truth is, I couldn’t. I needed my husband, parents, in-laws, sisters, and friends to help carry the load. Let go of the lie that you have to do it all yourself. Allow the people around you to love on you and be part of your children’s lives. Leaning on others isn’t weakness, it is how God designed it.

“Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.” — Galatians 6:2

Most importantly, though, lean on Christ. This is His mission for you, and He is going to be with you every step of the way. Once the twins were a little over a year, I started back up the habit of spending time in the Word every day. Whether it was doing the Bible Recap or just a quick devotional about joy, I made a choice to prioritize time with the Lord, and I could tell a difference in our home.

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding.” — Proverbs 3:5

4. Set expectations realistically

With twins, almost everything requires more:

• Extra doctor appointments during pregnancy.

• Labor and delivery looks different.

• Feeding, diapering, and bathing takes more time – and more hands.

• And yes—you’ll spend more on formula, diapers, and clothes.

  
  

But here’s the beautiful part: you’ll get to watch two little ones grow side by side. You’ll see two smiles, two sets of first steps, and two personalities bloom—sometimes in matching outfits, sometimes in full-on wrestling matches (yes, even if they are both girls). They will have such a special bond, and there are so many fun moments ahead of you! Every sleepless night and blowout is worth it.

Double work. Exponential blessing.

5. Take time to plan ahead

With the double work we just talked about, it helps to prepare both physically and mentally for this big change. Having things ready beforehand will save you time and energy—two things you’ll need plenty of once your babies arrive!

As you’ve probably heard, twins often come early, and by months 7 or 8 you’ll want to be resting as much as you can. So, build those cribs, wash and hang the newborn through 1–3 month clothes, and get that rocking chair ready. A few other things to think through include: bottle type, formula type, crib setup, sleeping arrangements (same room or separate rooms), how many diaper and feeding stations you’ll need, and your goals for pumping or breastfeeding.

For example, we bought a simple portable changing table with our oldest and kept it in the living room from the very beginning. Later, we added a dresser-top changing table in her room (which is right across the hall from the twins’ room). We kept wipes and both diaper sizes in each location so changes were quicker and easier.

Another thing that worked for us: when the twins were about a month old, we sometimes had them sleep in a pack n play in the living room. That way, one of us could get uninterrupted sleep in our bedroom while the other stayed on “baby duty” on the couch. Since newborns make all sorts of little noises in their sleep, this gave us each a solid 4–5 hours of rest before switching shifts.

I share these stories to provide ideas of what you can start preparing for in the months ahead. But don’t stress over having it all figured out. Many systems will come together as you get to know your babies’ unique needs and personalities. And remember—babies change fast! Be flexible, creative, and confident that you’ll find the routines that work best for you and your beautiful growing family.

If you’d like more details, I have separate blog posts where I share practical tips from our first months, what our schedule looked like, and the game-changing twin baby products that made life easier. Be sure to check those out if you want to dive deeper!

Final Word

I know it feels big right now. It is—but you were chosen for this. God doesn’t make mistakes, and He will equip you for the road ahead. I’m cheering for you, and I promise, if you let it, this unexpected journey is going to bring joy beyond what you can imagine. 💛

“The Lord has done great things for us, and we are filled with joy.” — Psalm 126:3

I’d love to hear from you! Did you also find out you were having twins unexpectedly? Share your story in the comments; we can cheer each other on through this wild, beautiful ride!